You’ve heard the song “Marry Me” by Jason Derulo, right? I love it. It’s basically like “Hey girl…” So responsible, right? Much unlike Train’s song by the same name that’s basically like “Hey girl, I’m totally head-over-heels in love with you and I just want to spend every second of the rest of my life with you so please marry me. Oh, and my name is Pat. Nice to meet you.” (But don’t get me wrong, I love that song, too.)
But back to Mr. Derulo, I love it because it’s something I can relate to. There are always posts around the blog world about getting married young, getting married early, and getting married to the person you love more than anything in the world. And that’s great, but I personally believe in dating for a long time, getting to know one another and what you both want out of life, still loving them more than anything in the world, and then making the commitment to get married.
Sam and I have been together for almost four years now, and it will be at least another two until we say “I do.” (More if he gets his way). But you know what? That’s okay with me. When you really get down to it, four years (or six years) is not that long, and every year that we spend together we learn more about one another, grow in our relationship, and fall further in love. I am in no rush to get married. I realized a long time ago that I wanted to wait until I was both personally and financially stable before I added a man to the mixture.
When Sam and I do finally tie the knot, I know I’ll feel confident about our life together. Since we started dating, Sam and I have developed the same ideas about parenting, where we want to buy a house, politics, etc. And on top of that, anything that we don’t agree on I know we can work out, because we’ve already had four years of practice. I truly can’t imagine meeting someone in college and then getting engaged just weeks or months later, because marriage is a huge commitment and I want to know without a doubt that they are someone I can spend forever with; it takes a while to know something like that! Plus, Sam and I are enjoying the independent and single(ish) life right now!
I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with getting married quickly, and I’m certainly not saying that I don’t believe it can work, but Jason Derulo’s version of “Marry Me” is just what works for me, no matter how romantic Train’s version sounds.
Now, with all of this said, I have a big girl job, and Sam has a big boy job, and I’m very confident we can successfully spend the rest of our lives together, so he can put a ring on it anytime.
*Cough cough hint hint cough*