Marry Me
You’ve heard
the song “Marry Me” by Jason Derulo, right? I love it. It’s basically like “Hey girl…” So responsible, right?
Much unlike Train’s song by the same name that’s basically like “Hey girl, I’m totally head-over-heels
in love with you and I just want to spend every second of the rest of my life
with you so please marry me. Oh, and my name is Pat. Nice to meet you.” (But
don’t get me wrong, I love that song, too.)
But back to
Mr. Derulo, I love it because it’s something I can relate to. There are always
posts around the blog world about getting married young, getting married early,
and getting married to the person you love more than anything in the world. And
that’s great, but I personally believe in dating for a long time, getting to
know one another and what you both want out of life, still loving them more
than anything in the world, and then
making the commitment to get married.
Sam and I
have been together for almost four years now, and it will be at least another
two until we say “I do.” (More if he gets his way). But you know what? That’s
okay with me. When you really get down to it, four years (or six years) is not
that long, and every year that we spend together we learn more about one
another, grow in our relationship, and fall further in love. I am in no rush to
get married. I realized a long time ago that I wanted to wait until I was both
personally and financially stable before I added a man to the mixture.
When Sam and
I do finally tie the knot, I know I’ll feel confident about our life together.
Since we started dating, Sam and I have developed the same ideas about
parenting, where we want to buy a house, politics, etc. And on top of that,
anything that we don’t agree on I
know we can work out, because we’ve already had four years of practice. I truly
can’t imagine meeting someone in college and then getting engaged just weeks or
months later, because marriage is a huge commitment and I want to know without
a doubt that they are someone I can spend forever with; it takes a while to
know something like that! Plus, Sam and I are enjoying the independent and
single(ish) life right now!
I’m not
saying that there’s anything wrong with getting married quickly, and I’m certainly
not saying that I don’t believe it can work, but Jason Derulo’s version of
“Marry Me” is just what works for me, no matter how romantic Train’s version
sounds.
Now, with all of this said, I have a
big girl job, and Sam has a big boy job, and I’m very confident we can
successfully spend the rest of our lives together, so he can put a ring on it
anytime.
*Cough cough hint hint cough*
great post! i really like that song as well.
ReplyDeleteand you are right- there is NO need to rush into marriage. at all.
I love this post!! So true . . . I think there's so much value in really getting to know each other and being in a place where you feel comfortable and stable in your own lives before you completely mix them. My husband and I dated for about 4 years before getting married and while that isn't a super long time . . . I was glad we had those four years to grow together and individually first!
ReplyDeleteGreat post! Brian and I have been dating almost 4 years too and we've lived together for over a year and I am so ready to get engaged now!
ReplyDeleteI'm ready to be married! I don't even care about the wedding... I just want to be married to my man. :)
ReplyDeleteOh I love this post and it's refreshing to hear that we don't need to get engaged at such young ages! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
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